So Lonely

I’ve become acutely aware lately of how easy it is for people to feel suddenly overwhelmed by a sense of isolation and loneliness.

Relationships break up, people are moving frequently into new areas, children leave home, bereavement comes out of the blue. We are not prepared in any way to deal with such radical changes in so far as they impact the pattern of our daily lives.

Life moves so very quickly.

We’ve lost touch with our real networks – family and friends. It’s all too easy for an unexpected event that’s totally out of our control to crash and crush us. Suddenly the world seems brutal, we’re friendless, uncared for, all that was familiar disappears. We’re alone.

As children, we have our parents to help us in these situations. But what do we do as adults, when loneliness paralyses us? How should we react?

Well, there’s no ‘should’ in this context. No hard and fast rules of how to behave. And every person’s situation is of course unique, with its own challenges and opportunities.

My recovery from sepsis and multiple amputation is an ongoing project even after 20 years.

During that time I’ve developed coping techniques to deal with the times when I feel profoundly alone.

I plan my day to avoid being on my own as much as possible

I have go to pieces of music that have become so familiar it’s almost like they are my friends

My part tine job gives me a network of friendly support

I feel like it’s important to express positivity and kind thoughts whenever I am in company (even when I’m not feeling it)

I avoid conflict in every situation in order to keep channels of communication open at all times

Loneliness is stressful, it can be very bad for health, and it’s so unnecessary in these days when communicating with each other is so easy.

Do you know someone who might appreciate a call? Or a visit? What’s stopping you from taking action? By connecting, by showing love & respect for our friends & family, we can spread more resilience.